You and you alone are the best judge of what is right for you. Pardon me, I meant “Right”, because it also includes what is “True”. For you. My friend Coffee Lady and I have agreed to disagree about whether there actually is such a thing as ‘objective reality’, but each of us is convinced of the Truth of the matter :) But that’s another post for another time. This post is about how each of us, as a vibrational being, is perfectly suited to interpret the vibrations around us and choose the ones that are right for us.
To paraphrase Abraham (and to misquote Madonna at the same time!):
“We are living in a vibrational world,
and I am a Vibrational Girl”
We have eyes to interpret light waves, ears to interpret sound waves, taste and smell for volatile/excited food particles , etc. We also have emotions which are the sense ‘organ’ for detecting how well we are in alignment with our larger selves. This ability has gone largely uncredited, even scorned for the role it plays. Growing up, did you ever have the temerity to tell your parents or teachers that you didn’t do what they expected of you because you didn’t feel like it? How many times did you repeat that technique?
Over time, you learned to ignore as much as possible what your emotions were telling you, and to use standard, socially acceptable templates to choose what you could and could not “get away with”. You probably learned how to feign illness (which after chronic success became real illness), how to disappear when chores awaited, how to sweet-talk or manipulate a delay or compromise, etc. All the while, this valuable guidance system either earned less and less attention or had to become VERY LOUD in order for you to give it credit.
Ironically, people who felt very strongly that they should not get on that airplane that crashed are lauded as either psychic or “protected” by angels or such, when in fact it was their own emotional guidance system doing its job. It should be noted, however, that someone who was really in touch with this emotional guidance would probably have gotten the message long before they got to the airport.
In the process of re-learning to follow our emotional guidance, it is important to take it in stages. Very few people could tolerate the fear engendered by telling their boss that they are not inspired to come in to work today, or tolerate the rapid change in their employment status, either. So, taking it stepwise is perfect. Do what you “feel like” on your off time. Practice changing your feeling about going to work, although this is tricky, because you have to actually feel better, not just come up with words that sound good (a common issue).
It is also important to recognize the difference between “I want” and “I feel like”. I discovered that I was saying, “I want to clean the house” when I absolutely didn’t feel like cleaning. What I was feeling was, “I want this house clean because then it would be okay for me to take a nap” which is what I actually felt like. If this sounds complicated, that is only because most of us have built up our resistance to pleasing ourselves in many ways over the years. It takes some time to peel back the layers, bit by bit. But you have the tool if you will only begin to learn how to use it.
So if you can trust your nose to tell you what is going to be delicious, your balance to keep you upright, your eyes to find your keys… you can trust your feelings to guide you in more esoteric ways. Like the bumper sticker says, “If it feels good, do it!”.