The Basics/ The Whole Story

There is no one in the universe that has the power to control my feelings, except me.

There is no one in the universe who has the power to control my thoughts, except me.

There is no one in the universe who has the power to control my intention, except me.

Therefore, there is no one in the universe who has the power to control the way I experience my life, my reality, except me.

And in exerting my power to choose I choose to select thoughts which support feeling good and loving myself and my life.

In choosing to see the love and the power and the gifts within myself, I am choosing to see the love and the power and the gifts of this planet and all that share in it; people, animals, plants, insects, elements and spirits.

In choosing to see and celebrate the health and well-being of, the growth and the evolution in myself and my life, I am choosing to see the health and well-being, the growth and evolution of the times, the ecology and this moment of evolution.

In exerting my power of choice to feel good, I choose to become a channel of the Source of all love and well-being, of all gifts and comfort.

I choose to see in others what strength and beauty and value they have forgotten or discounted in themselves during the play that they are enacting at the moment.

I choose to see their eternal selves and the perspective that brings.

I choose to embrace all of this to bring myself aliveness and joy, which cannot but overflow and change the world by making itself available more and more, one person by one person.

I believe it is true that the microcosm reflects the macrocosm, or as it is often said, “As above, so below: as within, so without”.  Our choices to feel good and be powerful nourish the physical world by improving who we are and what we have to offer.




Today I want to talk about essences. We all have things that we want; we want money, cars, clothes, lovers, jobs, whatever. And we want each of those things for a particular reason. An essence is that “thing” that you’re looking for, and more specifically, it’s that thing, as it would feel. So, for example, we all want lots of money because we want what we can get with lots of money. We can go places, do things, avoid doing things-we don’t have to work at a job we don’t like if we have lots and lots of money. So what do all those things have in common?


For me, I want money because I want the freedom to do whatever I want, whenever I want, without stopping to consider whether I can afford it. It’s the old joke, you go into a fancy French restaurant and if you have to ask the prices you can’t afford it. I want to live as though I can afford anything I want. And the basic, underlying essence of that is that I feel free. I want to feel completely unlimited.  I want to have the opportunity to do all the things I can name. All of those things could actually come to me, even without money! I could get the opportunity to do a job that I absolutely love, that didn’t feel like doing a job, that felt like having fun. I could go places and see things and do stuff by being invited, for example, without necessarily having to have any money.  I could win a prize, or something completely unexpected could provide the means or the money (because I am not against getting the money, either).


So once I accept the fact that I can have the essence that I’m looking for, I realize that in fact I can have it lots of ways. I’m unlimited, there’s no reason why money has to be the only way in which I get what I want. In that case, I can begin looking at all of the things that I could have, without making money the pre-condition. Better yet, I can look at how I already have that essence in my life. What are some of the freedoms that I want from having lots of money? I want to be able to own my own schedule.  Well, this is true, I don’t have a job. I can pretty much do whatever I want whenever I want, with some limitations!


I say with some limitations, because I still accept that there are limitations.  I haven’t yet been invited to go traveling around the world. However, that doesn’t mean it couldn’t happen! It just means it hasn’t happened yet. It partly hasn’t happened yet because I always think, “Ooh. If I were really rich, I could go traveling”, and I set it up as though that’s the way it has to be. Rather than saying, “Boy you know, I’m really looking forward to going to Ireland, or Scotland, or Turkey, or China, or wherever”, and allow the Law of Attraction to bring that opportunity in to me at exactly the right price.


So to identify the essence of what you’re looking for allows you to apply that understanding to what you already have. And as we know, with the Law of Attraction, in order to attract a thing, you already have to be feeling full of whatever quality, essence that you are seeking. In order to attract lots of money, you have to feel really abundant!  In order to attract love, you have to feel really loved! So now that you can look at a thing that you want and identify the essence from it, you can identify how you already have it in your life. Concentrate on that, put your attention on that, allow yourself to really feel happy, glad, grateful that you have that essence in your life to a degree you haven’t been crediting.


Once you truly feel that way two things will happen. One is that you will be happy because you have what you always wanted, and second is that those things which compliment that feeling will come to you. That is the Law of Attraction. Now that I’ve identified, as I just now did identify, the reason that I haven’t traveled the world is because I always defined it as something I could only do if I had lots of money, which I never believed I had.  Now I can travel the world simply because I’ve been invited to. You probably won’t believe this, but I just remembered that my daughter invited me to go traveling with her next summer. Whoa, I must be onto something…


That is the essence of essences.  It is partly your thoughts, but largely it’s the feeling. If you will go around feeling, “I can do whatever I want. I am completely free”, then the things that prove to you that you are completely free continue to arrive in your environment. Identifying the essence allows you to identify how you already have it, which allows you to become a vibrational match to having more of it, which is what you wanted in the first place.




Breathe in, breathe out.

What have you just accomplished?  You have just exchanged who you were a moment ago with who you have become now.  It was easy and natural.  You even do it while you are concentrating your attention on other things, because you allow your body to prompt you to take a breath, and the next.  You go along with it because it is easy and rewarding.  You don’t pay attention to it until something out of the ordinary happens, like unaccustomed exercise, or you bring it to your attention intentionally, like in yoga or meditation.

That is precisely how all changes in life happen;  moment by moment, as incremental movement.  This is the reason why it is so helpful to pay attention and give credit to yourself for the smallest improvements.  You are building upon each of these moments, just as each tiny stitch in knitting or embroidery is creating a whole new creation that has never before existed.  We often wish to jump ahead to the completed project, because our mind’s eye can already behold the thing, and we see ourselves at that moment of pride in completing it and using it.

This ability to see into the future and anticipate it with excitement is essential in the creation of our desires, but if it is emphasized over the triumphs of the moment, it is all too easy to become frustrated with not having it NOW.  This , of course, slows down the creation process by being a vibrational match to NOT having the thing you desire!  What is the solution to this?  Let’s examine two methods.

Abraham’s 3 step process

Step One-Respond to the life you are living.  This is automatic, you do not have consciously participate in this step.

Step Two-Your inner being, your Thought-self, becomes a vibrational match to the desire you have generated in Step One.  The LoA causes the elements that will fulfill your desire to come into your environment.  Again, this is done without your conscious participation.

Step Three-You “allow” this fulfillment of your desire by noticing in what ways, or to what degree your desire has been fulfilled.  This is the only step that requires your attention, and once you have the hang of it, your life truly becomes effortless.  I can say this because I can envision it, but I must admit I have not yet achieved effortlessness.  I have, however, reached a point of much greater ease.  I find it easier and quicker to identify my feelings, to change my perspective on a situation or, when appropriate, relax and accept myself about not doing the work until I am ready.

I found this method very helpful in the beginning, mostly because it took the pressure off of me to figure out how to achieve what I wanted.  However, it took a lot of study and effort to understand what “allowing” consisted of, or how to be a vibrational match to what I wasn’t feeling at the time.  So I developed my own 3 step process.

My step one-Identify how I am feeling.  Decide whether I want to feel that way. If not…

My step two- Decide how I do want to feel.  I find that if I allow myself to just ramble on about what I want to feel (preferably aloud), I will usually come out with a description that fits so perfectly it “pings”, resounding with rightness.  If time allows and I feel the urge, I will elaborate on this to milk it for all it’s good-feeling-ness.

My step 3- Collapse time.  Now that I have identified how I want to feel, it is time to become a vibrational match to being it.  Therefore, I find the ways in which I already feel that way.  If it involves having a thing, money for example, I will find all the money I do have and give credit to having it.  I will also identify the essence that I want money for (freedom to do what I  like, security, etc) and find those things that I have now that fulfill the essence I want.  Really, this is an exercise in finding the positive aspects of my life that I have been blind to until this point.  It makes me feel better NOW, which is a relief, and it makes me a vibrational match to what I want.

It is good to understand that while such targeted exercises in feeling better about specific things makes me a vibrational match to those things, any time I can feel good about anything improves my dominant vibration.  This is nice because there are times and issues I have difficulty letting go of, finding positive aspects of.  In those circumstances, I turn my attention to anything that I can feel good about and I get relief.  Sort of the way I would treat a toddler, when logic fails, use distraction!

Finally, Abraham is always urging us to appreciate what we already have.  In a recent bout with wanting my life to be effortless (in particular, these writings!), I took this advice and reminded myself of how much I have already accomplished.  Then it dawned on me, what could be more effortless than what is already done!  Look around yourself for how much you have already achieved toward your goals and in your life, you will be surprised at how far you’ve come and it will make you feel better.



What do I mean by The Law of Attraction?

The Law of Attraction (hereafter referred to as LOA) is said to be a Cosmic Law, which means that even if you may not know of it, or ‘believe’ in it, it is how the universe works nonetheless.  I say  ‘it is said’, because

a) I am no authority on Cosmic Law and

b) for my purposes it isn’t necessary to accept any of this for my work to be helpful.

However, I do personally accept it in a working-hypothesis sort of way, and sometimes forget myself and speak in those terms, so I want to address it now, in order to be on the same page later on. (For the record, please feel free to ask me to describe something in non-LOA terms if I do not do so .)

This will be a thumbnail sketch, if you wish to pursue the theory in more depth, please refer to the Resources page.

All matter is made up of energy (thank you Mr. Einstein, et al). All energy vibrates at it’s own particular vibrational “frequency”.  Light , sound, odors,  heat; all have vibrational frequencies (in my mind, I think of these as “soft matter” because they contain identified particles, whether we can see them or not).  Thoughts and feelings (which are intertwined, for the most part) also have vibrational frequencies ( I think of these as “incipient matter”, which is matter that hasn’t yet taken on an observable form).  We have even learned what those vibrations are by our experience of them, and we call them “feeling high” and “feeling low”.

The Law of Attraction (Cosmic Law, remember) states that: The essence of that which is like unto itself is drawn. The “essence” refers to the vibrational frequency.   Therefore the process of creation starts with a thought/feeling and then with the addition of sustained focused energy (attention) it is, over some period of time, manifested as matter.  So those who practice “deliberate creation” mindfully choose thoughts and feelings that are a vibrational match to those things and experiences they want in their lives.  This is referred to as becoming a “vibrational match” to what you want.

In other words, to use the LOA to consciously attract your dreams, you must “be the change you want to see”.

I have reservations about this perspective of using deliberate creation to manifest “stuff”.  To quote Abraham, “Everything that you want, you want because you think you will be happy in the having of it.”  In other words, you want “stuff” (and I include experiences and events in “stuff”) in order to feel good.  Maybe you want a house for security, a job you love for a sense of productivity, a lover for intimacy, etc.

Now consider this: according to the LOA you must be a vibrational match for those things to be magnetized to you, yes?  That means you must generate the feeling of security to get your house, an appreciation for how much you love the productivity in your life to get that job, etc.  It strikes me that if you can offer the vibration of what you are looking for, its “essence”, then you have already achieved what you wanted.  According to the LOA the rest of the “stuff” will come to you because the Cosmic Law will make it so!  So, your work here is really to identify the essence of what you want, see how it is already expressed in your life and keep your attention trained on your having of it.  Simply put, feel good about your life as it is and as it comes to you!

I am not suggesting that you not have dreams of better, because that is a natural thing to want more and better. To misquote an old saying, “It is important to want what you have in order to have what you want.”  Or as I read it in Scripture, “Seek first the Kingdom of God and all else will be added unto you.”  This is a reference to Abraham’s requirement  of”being in alignment” with your Source energy.  Hmmm, that looks like another blog post…

We come, then, to the reason why I say you do not need to accept the  existence of the LOA or teachings associated with it in order to benefit from this website and associated outreach programs.  My experience is in learning to feel good as much as possible, every day, with whatever life brings you now.

Le Chaim!