In Your Power

Being in your power means knowing yourself. More importantly it means trusting that you do; that you will know whether you like a thing or don’t, or that you will figure it out over time; that you can trust that your ideas and feelings are giving you good information and you can spend NO time second guessing it.  this is how life becomes effortless.

To recapitulate:

Step One-  You know who you are moment by moment by recognizing how you are feeling and whether you want to feel that way or you don’t.

Step Two- Trust that those feelings are the best guidance you can have.  Don’t waste your energy on second-guessing yourself, just soothe those voices that say, “But what if…” by reminding them that you will know as clearly at the next moment as you do now and that at any given moment your paths are few and easy to choose among.

If you do not feel a clear impulse one way or another (“But i don’t know what I want!”),  rejoice, because this is one of those times when you can choose anything and the experience will show you!

Repeat until you feel yourself becoming shiny and manageable.

P.S.  Flower essences, meditation, nature and creativity will all help you to feel better while you are working out how to pay attention to what you are feeling moment by moment.

 

Divine discontent

A perfect example of Divine discontent is the desire of a woman in late pregnancy to just give birth and “get this over, already”.  It is the proper maturation of the experience at just the right time to make a necessary transition.  She is in tune with the process, she is in tune with the child within her.

Springtime is another good example.  When the sun begins to return, our hearts are lifted and we begin to anticipate the end of the cold weather.  By the time nice weather rolls around we are energized, primed for the growth that is happening all around us to take root within us.  It is a time to consciously allow the expansion that is “in the air”.

There are many times in our lives when we feel Divine discontent, and it is important to understand the role that it plays. Do we need to distinguish this feeling of having outgrown our situation from the discontent that arises from putting our attention on what we don’t want, that thing that Abraham calls “beating the drum of unwanted”?  How do you tell one from the other? Is there a difference? Good question.  This is the place where discernment is the best tool.

Discernment is the ability to monitor yourself:  your thoughts, your feelings, your intuition, your bodily reactions and to “test drive” potential solutions.  How does it feel to think about doing x solution or y solution?  I recently had the opportunity to consider moving to the nearest “big city” and live with or nearer to some of my children (who are truly my best friends).  At first the idea filled me with such a feeling of joy, I caught fire with the idea.  The thought of living in a place where so many interesting things were happening, where there was likely to be a group of people more on my wavelength, where there were multiple coffee shops within walking distance! LOL!

Yet after a few hours thought about logistics, I began to realize (discernment) that what excited me the most was really the sense of freedom from what I was living, and THAT was something I really wanted to accomplish without giving up what I already had.  So I began to look at what would help me to feel better right here, right now.  For inspiration, I looked at the whiteboard on my fridge which holds some of my favorite bits of Abraham advice.

“Appreciate what you have.

Look forward with eagerness  to what is coming.

DO what you look forward to.

Relax about it.”

As I thought about what I look forward to, I realized that most of what was on my list were tasks!

  • Figure out how to earn enough money to support my house alone.
  • Get skinny.
  • Finish painting the downstairs.

Geez, no wonder I felt dispirited, de-energized and trapped.  Where was “Go to Scotland”?  “Meet interesting people”?  “Really enjoy being in my body”?  Of these three, I could be doing two of them right now!  I had plainly been “beating the drum” of  “I don’t have enough money”. “I’m not good enough” and “I have to finish what I start”.  Taking a step back gave me the opportunity to see these things differently, and to recognize and try on some directions to see where I would rather go.

It is fair to say that in any case of unhappiness, some of it has arisen from “beating the drum” or habitually putting one’s attention on the aspects of a situation that are not what we want.  It is also fair to say that some of it is Divine discontent, meaning that at some level of our Being it is time to move on and grow.  Discernment, the ability to read your feeling signals  and be honest with yourself about what you truly want (even if you think you “shouldn’t” want that) is the tool that will allow you to make sense of what is going on and what you feel like doing about it.

Since there is an element of both kinds of discontent in any unhappiness, it serves to see it all as Divine discontent.  In this context it is natural, it is right, for us to find the gift of understanding and use it to nurture our true desires.