The way it’s meant to work: Part 2

Step One of deliberate creation is having a desire.  Abraham tells us this is an automatic, instantaneous response to stimuli and NOT under our conscious control.   When we become aware of this response, we can use the understanding of it to focus upon the desire, but the desire itself is instantaneous.

Step Two is that the Law of Attraction brings that which will fulfill this desire to us.  Once again, not our job, the LoA handles the “How” of things. (And may I just say, THANK YOU GOD!)

Step Three is allowing your desires to materialize for you.  This, says Abraham, is our only job.  “But, but, what the heck does ‘allowing’ look like, feel like?”, we wonder.   This is the best question!

Let’s look at these steps in detail.

Step1 -This “rocket of desire” is a vibrational frequency which you are broadcasting.  Think of it as magnetic emanations that take on the shape and essence of your desire.  The non-physical part of you (I am finding it hard to use You to describe this at the beginning of  a sentence) becomes a vibrational match to your desire by using the method we think of as imagination.  “You” create images, sensations and feelings that correspond to the desire you’ve conceived of.

This imagined state of being creates a framework to hang matter upon, rather like a sculptor with clay might use a wire template to flesh out into form.  This creates an energetic template for “you” to follow.  Your EGS lets you know whether you are moving towards or away from your desired thing by whether you feel harmony or dissonance with it’s frequency, which your inner being is vibrating at, which it has “become”.

It occurs to me, just now, that if thought is the basis of all form/matter, then your inner being (“You”) is your Thought-self.  I like this image because it is easier to see how one’s Thought-self is integral to one’s Matter-self, and also gives us a parallel for what follows here.

Okay, your Thought-self instantaneously becomes a vibrational match to the desire your Matter-self generated.  It is instantaneous because it happens on the level of thought.   Your Matter-self can know what to focus it’s attention on by whether the thought feels harmonious (good) or dissonant (uncomfortable).  This is how Abraham tells us we can “feel our way” through life. With each new rocket of desire, we refine and/or expand our desires and feel our way towards them.

Step 2-As the tendrils of your magnetic emanations expand outward from you they are complemented by the LoA, which matches the frequency of your magnetism with things of similar shape and essence.The LoA brings us the opportunities to fulfill our desires and we discern the “right” actions from how they make us feel.

The “right” action, of course, is right only in the context of what we have asked for, and as the unique beings we are at any given moment.  Not only can what we desire change, it is guaranteed to change.  These are the refinements we make on a continuing basis.   “I want to prove I am good enough” becomes,  “On second thought, I am good enough, I want things to be easy”  which morphs into, “Well, this is kinda boring, maybe just enough challenge to be interesting, but not enough to be painful.”   Etc.

Step 3-Here we have the parallel I spoke of earlier.  Your Thought-self became a vibrational match to your desires by seeing them, matching sensations and feelings to the “imagined” scenario.  So your Matter-self does it as well.  Imagine, remember or perceive in this moment that what you want is what you have and it will be.  Make it so, Number One.

The way it’s meant to be is effortless, obvious, natural and rewarding.  Have a desire and it is met. Ask and ye shall receive.  It doesn’t feel like this is the way it is working in large part because we do not trust our feelings, have accepted false beliefs about what we can do, what we “have to” do, what we deserve and the duty we owe to others.  Letting go of these forms of resistance can be hard work, (at least until the belief that it has to be hard work is released :)), but it gets easier and easier as you pay attention to what makes you feel good.

 

 

 

The way it’s meant to work: Part 1 (definitions)

According to Abraham this is how the process of attraction works and what it would be like if we could eliminate our resistance.  In their “Getting into the Vortex Guided Meditations CD” (which I highly recommend)  Abraham states, “Your life is supposed to feel good to you, and you are meant to feel happiness in your life- and you are meant to satisfy your dreams.”

As always, the following terms and descriptions are my understanding and imagery of the material, garnered from Seth and others as well as Abraham.

First some definition of “terms”.

You and you

There are two parts to each of us, the part that perceives itself as being in a physical body and the part that remains in a non-physical form, what Abraham refers to as “the larger, broader part”.  I say ‘two parts’, but it is important to understand that these parts are as indivisible as your heart and the rest of your body.  One cannot exist without the other.  In my mind I sometimes think of these as ‘you’ (physical) and ‘You” (non-physical).

It might be helpful to think of these as in a video game.   “You” is the game player, “you” is the character (Mario?), with a key difference being that You can see the action from a broader perspective and at the same time see from Mario’s perspective, while Mario can act independently and does not always share the perspective of the game player.

Rockets of desire

As you play your game/life, the experiences you have stimulate a response.  This is an instantaneous response to the stimulus and often you are not even aware that it exists or what it is.  Perhaps someone has been rude to you, you instantly want to be treated more respectfully.   You might be  distracted by the information you were exchanging and only later become aware of having been treated rudely, but the response is instantaneous.   You felt the feeling right away, but it didn’t become conscious of it right then.  Think of all the times you’ve had a phone call, and much later defined what upset you, and then you come up with a snappy comeback.

These instantaneous responses are what Abraham calls “rockets of desire”, and this is “Step One” in the process of deliberate creation or manifestation.  This “rocket of desire” is a vibrational frequency which you are broadcasting.

Vibrational Frequency

All things have a vibrational frequency which is, quite literally, the rate at which they vibrate.  The examples of this we are most familiar with are light and sound (light waves and radio waves), and I like to use music as my example for this.    Certain notes sound good played with other notes, they are harmonious, their frequencies have a particular mathematical relationship.  Other notes, which have another mathematical relationship sound bad together, they are dissonant. As with many things, you do not have to know the math in order to identify what does or does not sound good together (to you).  The same is true for thoughts, and feelings. We can feel what is harmonious (pleasant) or dissonant (unpleasant).  Sometimes you meet someone who seems to be just your type, you hit it off because you are on the same “wavelength”.  Someone who you find grating is “not on your wavelength”.

According to Abraham, this harmony or dissonance is based on your “dominant vibrations”.   This can be thought of as an average taken over time and circumstances. Your vibration changes all the time according to what you are paying attention to.  A good example of this was my relationship with certain people I met when homeschooling my kids.  I found that many of the “Christian” homeschoolers were not on my wavelength on matters of religion, but we were very close on home birth, alternative medicine and many of our homeschool practices.  Another good example is my taste in music, which has shifted over time and, on occasion, with tutoring.

EGS

There is a form of communication between You and you which is intended to notify you of the next step to take to achieve what your life has caused you to desire.  It is your feeling state, your emotions.  Abraham calls this your Emotional Guidance System and it works like a GPS.  When you feel good, you’re on the path  to what your rocket of desire has created.  When you feel bad, you are not.  Thoughts are the basis of feelings  (See “Do you want to feel good“) and so Abraham tells us to choose thoughts which feel better.

The game player is always urging Mario on with what we call instinct/intuition/guidance/the still, small voice but Mario can ignore those urgings.  We in bodies, ie the Mario perspective, have forgotten that we exist on the player scale and been trained to disregard those whisperings of guidance at least some, if not most, of the time.

Resistance

This can be thought of as an old habit of thought which defines our lives as limiting in any way.  It is any thought which prevents us from being receptive to feeling good, experiencing happiness and achieving our dreams.  Any thought which includes “I can’t” or “how?” (such as “how am i going to pay for this”, or “find my true love”, or “get this all done”, etc) is resistant.

Continued in:“The way it’s meant to work: Part 2″

 

 

 

 

 

The Focus of Attention

There is a saying common in create-your-own-reality circles, “What you focus on grows larger”.  This is exactly the same as a “self-fulfilling prophecy”.  If all you can see when you look in the mirror is that big, red pimple on the end of your nose, you are also sure that is what everyone else is looking at as well.   This is certainly true in middle school, and your peers will reward you with confirmation of it.   What you seek, you do indeed find.

This also the basis of the parenting advice taught in schools, ” Catch your child being good!” and “Children will live up to, or down to, your expectations of them”.  Why so many quotes?  Partly to point out that “what you focus on grows larger” is just a woo-woo way of saying something that is pretty well accepted by mainstream society, and partly to lay the groundwork for using consciously directed focus to improve your life.

Think of a dark cabaret, filled with people and talking, staff moving around, smells wafting through the air.  The spotlight comes up on the stage and everyone focuses their attention on the stage.  If the performer is good enough, your awareness of all that other activity can simply disappear.  Imagine then, how selective attention to what you enjoy about what is happening in your life can make the parts you don’t enjoy “disappear”.

Each thing has positive and  negative aspects, so you have the choice of what to put your attention on.  This takes practice as well, and at times, it takes giving yourself permission to ignore things which you dis-enjoy.  Or to put a positive “spin” on it.  Same thing.  For example,  I am regularly visited by the ghost of martyrdom past that I learned at my mother’s knee. I find myself thinking that my family leave things undone for me to do; belongings strewn around, food unrefrigerated, toilet paper unstocked, etc. I think, ‘Why is this always my job? or ‘Can’t anyone else see that this has to be done’ or similar versions of the same theme.  So I suggest, or complain, or nag, all the while angry that I should even have to say anything.

In fact, I do not have to do any of those things.  I can choose to leave the thing undone, I can choose to do it for my own reasons, I can choose to mention it as a problem and ask my family for input in resolving it.  What I actually choose to do will vary, but the task in front of me each time is to focus on what I want and not on what makes me angry.  Sometimes I want help, sometimes I want appreciation, sometimes I want it not to be up to me at all.  When I can identify that desire, I can move towards it.  If all I am looking at is what is wrong, all I can see is what is wrong!

Sometimes we get in too deep to be able to find a positive side.  As always, there are options.  Ignore it until you feel better and then try again,  just a little bit.  I knit a sweater once from the pattern from hell.  Lots of things didn’t work and my fixes seemed to make more problems.  I finally posted my quandry on a knitting forum and one responder sympathized, saying she had some projects like that in a drawer.  I was flabbergasted.  I could put it in a drawer! That had never dawned on me.  When I finally pulled the project back out, months later, I had gained a new perspective and was able to make choices about what I was willing and not willing to do and the sweater got done.  Distraction is not only a wonderful parenting tool, but a terrific self-sanity tool as well.

We are used to disregarding many of our thoughts, feelings, accomplishments.  Dis-regard, not look at.  This is a terrific tool, and very useful, but only when you are dis-regarding what you DON’T like!  So, while you are dis-regarding the things you don’t like, what are you putting in their place?  Simple.  What you DO like.  When someone compliments you, do you tell them it is nothing? Your project is great- do you say yes, but there are still problems?  Try this: whenever you hear yourself say, “Yes, but…”, change it (at least mentally) to “Yes, so…”  It is surprising the places that simple word choice will lead you!

Look at what you have and appreciate it.  Look at who you are, what you can do,  and appreciate it.  And then, as Abraham urges, look forward with eagerness to what is coming.

 

 

What do I mean by The Law of Attraction?

The Law of Attraction (hereafter referred to as LOA) is said to be a Cosmic Law, which means that even if you may not know of it, or ‘believe’ in it, it is how the universe works nonetheless.  I say  ‘it is said’, because

a) I am no authority on Cosmic Law and

b) for my purposes it isn’t necessary to accept any of this for my work to be helpful.

However, I do personally accept it in a working-hypothesis sort of way, and sometimes forget myself and speak in those terms, so I want to address it now, in order to be on the same page later on. (For the record, please feel free to ask me to describe something in non-LOA terms if I do not do so .)

This will be a thumbnail sketch, if you wish to pursue the theory in more depth, please refer to the Resources page.

All matter is made up of energy (thank you Mr. Einstein, et al). All energy vibrates at it’s own particular vibrational “frequency”.  Light , sound, odors,  heat; all have vibrational frequencies (in my mind, I think of these as “soft matter” because they contain identified particles, whether we can see them or not).  Thoughts and feelings (which are intertwined, for the most part) also have vibrational frequencies ( I think of these as “incipient matter”, which is matter that hasn’t yet taken on an observable form).  We have even learned what those vibrations are by our experience of them, and we call them “feeling high” and “feeling low”.

The Law of Attraction (Cosmic Law, remember) states that: The essence of that which is like unto itself is drawn. The “essence” refers to the vibrational frequency.   Therefore the process of creation starts with a thought/feeling and then with the addition of sustained focused energy (attention) it is, over some period of time, manifested as matter.  So those who practice “deliberate creation” mindfully choose thoughts and feelings that are a vibrational match to those things and experiences they want in their lives.  This is referred to as becoming a “vibrational match” to what you want.

In other words, to use the LOA to consciously attract your dreams, you must “be the change you want to see”.

I have reservations about this perspective of using deliberate creation to manifest “stuff”.  To quote Abraham, “Everything that you want, you want because you think you will be happy in the having of it.”  In other words, you want “stuff” (and I include experiences and events in “stuff”) in order to feel good.  Maybe you want a house for security, a job you love for a sense of productivity, a lover for intimacy, etc.

Now consider this: according to the LOA you must be a vibrational match for those things to be magnetized to you, yes?  That means you must generate the feeling of security to get your house, an appreciation for how much you love the productivity in your life to get that job, etc.  It strikes me that if you can offer the vibration of what you are looking for, its “essence”, then you have already achieved what you wanted.  According to the LOA the rest of the “stuff” will come to you because the Cosmic Law will make it so!  So, your work here is really to identify the essence of what you want, see how it is already expressed in your life and keep your attention trained on your having of it.  Simply put, feel good about your life as it is and as it comes to you!

I am not suggesting that you not have dreams of better, because that is a natural thing to want more and better. To misquote an old saying, “It is important to want what you have in order to have what you want.”  Or as I read it in Scripture, “Seek first the Kingdom of God and all else will be added unto you.”  This is a reference to Abraham’s requirement  of”being in alignment” with your Source energy.  Hmmm, that looks like another blog post…

We come, then, to the reason why I say you do not need to accept the  existence of the LOA or teachings associated with it in order to benefit from this website and associated outreach programs.  My experience is in learning to feel good as much as possible, every day, with whatever life brings you now.

Le Chaim!