“Everything is always working out for me”

Abraham always corrects people who say,

“Everything always works out for me” to

“Everything is always working out for me”.

Intellectually I always understood this, in the way of creating a more effective affirmation, as bringing your outcome into the present moment. In a practical sense, though, I never felt the difference.

Today (showerthoughts, of course) I tried to see what the 2 statements were really saying.

The first implies that IN THE END you will have the outcome you want, despite the fact that you can’t see right now how it can/will come about.

The second implies that since it is happening right now as well as lining up to “conclude” (if you can use that word about anything in life) at some point, if you are alert to it, you might see evidence of steps that are happening to take you where you want to go.

(I believe that this is the meaning of the scripture, “Seek and ye shall find”. If you are looking for it, you will be able to find it.)

So the essential difference in subtext is,

“I will be happy when this happens and I just have to take it on faith that it will happen, eventually”

versus,

“I am happy that this is happening, in part, right now and I am comforted by the evidence that I see that it is happening, stepwise.”

Now obviously there are people who are capable of suspending disbelief comfortably, (ie having faith), although I don’t believe I am acquainted with any. I, and most of the people I know get along much better with evidence, even if it is only the evidence that no one else would accept: that of your own “knowing”, also known as guidance.

As an example:

I was playing Freecell and I was stuck-no moves possible. I read (a Facebook) thread, left and realized that I knew what (commenter) was saying about when you share your problem with someone you also offer them a connection to the solution and I came back to “like” it. I did that and went back to my game and there were 2 obvious plays which opened the game up entirely.

I “knew” that this “sign” was a follow-up to my last post here about being a teacher. It is not possible NOT to be a teacher because it is not possible not to be a learner as they are the two sides of the same coin.

As I was writing this note, I stepped out for a cigarette and  received several more confirmations that I am on the right track; I was warm despite the fact that it is 0 F, I saw a bird eating the food left out for them but haven’t seen any eating for weeks now and have been wanting to, etc.

These small confirmations are so easy to ignore and/or negate if you are not focused on finding them and giving them credence, or if you need to justify their truth to others who are lurking for the chance of saying “confirmation bias!”.  If you can be satisfied in yourself that this small sign has meaning for you and that you know what it is, there isn’t the smallest need to ‘fess up to anyone else.  I sometimes make up a story about what I am doing and why if I feel the need to respond to someone’s “But why are you doing that?”, but more often I just say, “Eh, I just feel like it.” (Which, by the way, is a hard thing to argue against, :)!)

So, if you decide to affirm, “Everything is always working out for me” be sure to be looking for the small evidences you are being shown.

In Your Power

Being in your power means knowing yourself. More importantly it means trusting that you do; that you will know whether you like a thing or don’t, or that you will figure it out over time; that you can trust that your ideas and feelings are giving you good information and you can spend NO time second guessing it.  this is how life becomes effortless.

To recapitulate:

Step One-  You know who you are moment by moment by recognizing how you are feeling and whether you want to feel that way or you don’t.

Step Two- Trust that those feelings are the best guidance you can have.  Don’t waste your energy on second-guessing yourself, just soothe those voices that say, “But what if…” by reminding them that you will know as clearly at the next moment as you do now and that at any given moment your paths are few and easy to choose among.

If you do not feel a clear impulse one way or another (“But i don’t know what I want!”),  rejoice, because this is one of those times when you can choose anything and the experience will show you!

Repeat until you feel yourself becoming shiny and manageable.

P.S.  Flower essences, meditation, nature and creativity will all help you to feel better while you are working out how to pay attention to what you are feeling moment by moment.

 

inner dialogue

I shared a Facebook post complaining about some subject and the unfairness with which it was being treated, probably by a governmental institution (?).  Honestly, I don’t remember the subject, but I remember that it twanged a note of victimhood in me at the time.  Very quickly I became uncomfortable with having shared it.
I wouldn’t even have posted this in my blog but for the fact that as I was looking at the draft, I managed to hit the right buttons to share it.  I am leaving it up because I took that a sign…

 

  • Tree at Large Since I posted this I have been a having a little internal dialogue about it.
    Self: If I am, as I believe, the creator of my own reality, through my intention, thoughts, feelings and focus of attention, then why would I subscribe to and propagate the fearfulness embodied in this statement?
  • Tree at Large Other part of Self: Well, it could have been said better, but since it caught my eye, I know that there is something in it for me to evaluate that reflects some belief of mine. I think it stimulated the part of me that wants complete freedom. Sometimes I think that I don’t have complete freedom.
  • Tree at Large S: Complete freedom would include the agencies above having complete freedom as well, right? And the protection of that freedom you want would be assured by the power of your focused thought, right?
  • Tree at Large OPoS: Hmmm, yes, I think so. So I guess this was sort of a pre-emptive strike against interference in my freedom. Which is rather a chip on my shoulder, making the assumption that the enemy IS there to take a shot at it.
  • Tree at Large Self: So what do we do about it? Take it down or let it stand?
  • Tree at Large OPoS: It doesn’t really matter, if I can make peace with the issue it raised. If this statement and it’s assumptions were a jar of capers, it would not get in my apple pie unless I put it there by focusing my attention on it.
  • Tree at Large OPoS: Besides I can always decide to take it down. New choices are always available.

The Nemesis Teacher

What is a nemesis teacher?  A person or thing which brings out in  you that which you don’t like.   Politicians and celebrities are often the vectors for this (no, I am really not just talking about Scott Walker or Rush Limbaugh).  They seem to embody, or at least espouse, those things that you feel are “wrong”.    They are people or experiences that you do not want to include in your personal reality.  They also have a way of being insistent enough to grab your attention!

Now you know that to put your attention on them simply gives them more power to disrupt your balance, but it seems impossible not to pay attention, so what do you do?  It behooves me at this point to put out a reminder that it is far easier (Really!  Or at least it will be) and more beneficial to distract yourself with something that you already feel good about, but that takes a lot of practice.  Meanwhile, find something to be grateful to your Nemesis Teacher for.  Really.

For example, that politician has powerfully drawn people’s attention to how the democratic process should work, what accountability should look like, what integrity really means.  That celebrity has caused us to value what he has put down with his name-calling tactics, has given us the opportunity to play with it in a humorous fashion.  It has pointed up what we really want by comparison to what we don’t want.

I used to tell my kids that if you really can’t find any other reason to be grateful to a nemesis teacher, tell yourself, “I’m so glad I’m not you!” (over time this has morphed into, “I’m so glad I am who I am”, but the other version has more punch because it tickles your funny bone.  Sometimes there’s a lot of relief to be had in being kinda mean in private!)

The Nemesis Teacher can be a person or an experience (being locked out of the house with the groceries and a busy agenda, for example) and it is what Abraham refers to as “contrast”.   The word “contrast” is a non-judgmental way of looking at it and points up the fact that it is  a contrast to what you want, thereby gently suggesting that inherent in the situation is an understanding of what you DO want.

So, if you are locked out of the house with the groceries and a to do list as long as your arm, what good does it do you to know that what you really want is to get inside and do your stuff?  Well, I admit that this part is kinda tricky.  The truth is that you need to identify the bit about what you want to feel, not the circumstances.  What you can’t change IS, so set about changing what you can change–your feelings about it.

“So, I’ve done what I can to get someone with a key to let me in.  Now how can I make this an experience I’m OK with?  It’s cold enough to keep the groceries from spoiling, yet warm enough that I won’t freeze.  If I wanted to, I could probably get invited into a neighbors for awhile if I do get too cold.  Wouldn’t it be nice if someone with a key comes faster than I expect.  The sky show is pretty amazing, and anything I wanted to do will still be there to do when I get to it.  This will be funny later.   It’s a little bit funny now. Every thing will be okay. ”

Who’s happier, Pooh or Eeyore?  It’s up to you which one you choose to spend your time and energy to be.

 

Poco a poco

We tend to think small changes are unimportant, insignificant.  We discount their value because it doesn’t seem like enough.   Never think so!  When changes come gradually, it gives us a chance to become accustomed to them, to try them on and make sure they fit.

When a toddler learns to jump (what a joy to watch, you’d think they were learning to fly!), they will often practice jumping with one foot first, which looks almost like stomping, but you can tell.  They find it so exciting, they stomp around and stomp around until one day-BOOM!- two feet leave the ground!  How long would it have taken to achieve two feet off the ground if they had discounted the value of one-foot jumping?

The vast majority of changes in our lives are accomplished little by little, adding up to an incremental progression.  We notice it in our children because it is so (relatively) fast, but to get a look at the changes we have wrought in ourselves, it is sometimes necessary to look back over a time period of a few months or a year to see how those incremental changes have mounted up.  I just did this and I am SO much happier on a daily basis, SO much better at managing my vibration, particularly at finding positive aspects to put my attention on.

When you do this, be sure to give yourself credit for every little bit.  If you find yourself tempted to judge something as not good enough to list, list it and then make a point of adding a reason (and make it one which feels authentic) as to why this was valuable enough to list.  I frequently make this a reason which tickles my funnybone, such as, “it brings my word count up by 25″, because when I find something funny I am in the vicinity of my best feeling times and often get swept along to even better feelings.

 

 

 

Love the Commonplace

Something we have learned well, and we can see this clearly when we look at the media, is to put our attention on what is topical.  What big thing is garnering all of our attention today, this week, this month?  I have never seen the Nightly News come right out and say, “People all over the world are still loving each other the best way they know how, today” or “98.5% of children under 3 learned half a dozen useful skills this morning and can be expected to do it again tomorrow”. The media would tell us that is not ‘news’.  That is commonplace.

Politicians are corrupt, corporations are soulless, life is unfair to the common man, disease is rampant, etc.  Sorry, but none of this is new.  Also, none of this is or ever has been universal: not all politicians are corrupt, not all corporations are soulless, each and every one of us, common or uncommon has choices, and health is also rampant.  So why, after millenia are we still considering this viewpoint as worthy of our attention?  Simple.  It is a practiced habit.

We tend to pay attention to topical issues, both as a population and as individuals.  However, the ability to go back over your assumptions and those choices that were made before is a very important tool in changing a habit!  Ask yourself what benefit you get from paying attention to the negatives.  I can think of 2 offhand:

1) It points out the positive direction by contrast (if I don’t want pain, I do want comfort).

2) It feels so good when you stop (paying attention to the negatives).

It is a basic LoA principle that what you pay attention to grows larger, and that you can’t magnetize what you DO want by focusing on what you DON’T want.  To attract it, you must already see yourself having it.  Since this is kinda tough, especially in the beginning, I have a suggestion.  Train yourself out of the habit of focusing on what you don’t want by training yourself to disregard topical issues, social and private.  Start with the ones that are outside your direct control, for example what you see in the media. Replace those thoughts with the ways you have what you want.  Despite what the media says, I have a job, a house, a car, etc.   HINT: Allow yourself to speak from this very moment! Do not predict that you may not have it next week, next week is not here! Match yourself NOW to what you want any time in the future.

The next suggestion is really the meat of this post: celebrate those commonplace things that are so easy to disregard because they are ‘not good enough’ to actually celebrate.  One of my daughters was miserable at one point in her teens because no one loved her.  I told her I loved her and thought she was special.  She replied, “That doesn’t count, you have to love me, you’re my mother”.  This just goes to show our ability to disregard what could be a source of comfort or celebration. Once I had a migraine and searched my entire body for a spot that didn’t hurt, so I could put my attention on it.  It was the arches of my feet.  As I focused my attention on them, not only did the pain recede from my awareness, the arches of my feet rubbing against one another became more and more deliciously comfortable.

I did this today and I felt so much better, I began to giggle. “I love the way these jeans fit, I really look forward to having all my jeans fit this well. I love having lots of clothes to choose from to stay warm.  I love the warmth and the massage of the water in the shower, and the way I feel refreshed and renewed when I get out.  I love the smell of this dill I am harvesting and this soup I am making.  I love the feeling of release I get from taking a big breath. I love the fact that I can feel better whenever I want by breathing deeply.  I love the fact that once I get started doing this, I attract more ideas of what I love….”

Give credit to your commonplace abundance, allow it to help you feel better for as long as you do it, and practice this habit.  You will find the harder issues will, little by little, get easier.

More and Better

Old habits of thought.  We all have them and we always will. An old habit of thought is simply that; an outmoded “belief” that we continue to invoke out of habit rather than intention.  ” Shoulds” are a very good example of this because, almost by definition, it signifies something that you feel must be done out of compunction instead of desire.

Reminder: Doing what you desire, what you “feel” like doing, is following guidance/ staying in alignment/treading the path you have already created in thought.

Old habits are not ‘wrong’, any more than you were wrong to be who you were yesterday, last month or 10 years ago.  They served you very well when you were treading that part of your path.  Traveling at the 30 mph speed limit is fine inside the city, but once you leave that speed zone, it is more fitting to go at highway speed.  You will get to your destination faster, you will be in synch with others on the same path at the same time, and it feels good to really go when the circumstances are right.

Not only did your old habits suit you then, they made it possible to grow and move forward to where you are now.  They were the stepping stones to Here Now.  So while it is good to have a “rummage sale of the mind” (to quote my old minister) and let go of outmoded thoughts like “I can’t afford that” (versus, “I don’t feel like spending my money on that right now”), it is important to recognize what those old thoughts brought you.

The Example:  As a kid you always wanted a sports car, and you daydreamed about looking cool and going fast.  At the same time you were busily learning patterns of limitation about money, opportunities, and your qualifications for them.  You might have learned that your parents thought they never had enough money and what they did have had to be earned by laboring at a job that didn’t thrill them to bits, that to have something you wanted meant going without something else, that certain things were only available to rich people (who weren’t you).

Still you dreamed about the sports car, even while you learned to accept that it probably wasn’t something you’d ever have.  You added features and colors, refining your vision of the perfect sports car every time you saw the newest models.  Once you saw an ad for a sports car at a terrific price, but it turned out to be 25 years old, rusted and without a transmission or tires.  Your hopes which had been secretly raised were dashed (as you knew they would be) and you became bitter that you couldn’t get even a decent old one.  This was a crucial moment!

If you had been studying Abraham and the Law of Attraction, you might have realized that you had a choice of how to view this; one way would bring you closer to having the sports car of your dreams; the other would increasingly alienate your chances.  If you could recognize how cleverly the Law of Attraction matched not only your desire for a sports car, but also matched your beliefs and expectations about money and the kinds of experiences that were available to you, you could have taken the view that you had manifested a sports car!

Because you had so many beliefs that hindered getting a luxury item like a sports car at all, it said a lot that you came across one at an affordable price.  The shape it was in was simply showing you the limits your expectations put on your manifestation.  At this point then, you recognize that you have attracted a sports car (yay!), and while pleased with yourself for that, you don’t feel the need to invest in this poor specimen.

Instead, you continue to daydream the perfect car and every time your old habits of thought start an argument with your dream, you’ll recognize them.  They are the thoughts that don’t feel good.  You’ll gradually make peace with those old habits and let them go, replacing them with thoughts that suit you now.  With any luck, you will be on the lookout for the next evidence of your changed/refined desire, knowing that even if it isn’t perfect, it is indicating movement towards what you really want.

The crucial part here?  Understanding that the manifestations surrounding you NOW are answers to prayers/desires from BEFORE.  Your desires have changed, moved up a notch and always will! It is in our nature to want More and Better.   Each time you get what you’ve  wanted: your manifestations will lag a bit behind, but as you are able to “see” them as your manifestations from before, and can get the point of what the imperfections are telling you about your own beliefs, the faster and more like what you really want they can get.

One last point is that there are some ‘places’ in your life that the manifestations meet and exceed your desires.  When you meet up with these, you say, “Wow! How cool is that!” or “I am having a lucky day!”  These are the manifestations you have also wrought, take credit for having that stuff together so well!

“Manifestation”

Several years ago, watching the birds and their fledglings, it struck me that I had never seen a baby crow. Considering the number of crows about, it seemed unlikely never to have seen a fledgling and I became intensely curious about it.  I really wanted to see a baby crow.

One day I saw the neighbor boy hitting what looked like a bundle of rags in the street with a stick.  When I  asked him what he was doing, he said, “It’s wing is broken, it can’t fly.”  I came closer and saw a crow, apparently unhurt, with startlingly blue eyes.  I realized the universe had answered my request to see a baby crow!

I picked it up with a towel and brought it to my backyard where it was nice and quiet.  Knowing that the parents would be watching, I just gave it some 5-Flower remedy and left it to recover.  Throughout the day, when I had reason to go out, I saw the baby in various spots throughout the yard. He had obviously been practicing his flying.

The next morning, when I chanced to look out the back window, there were half a dozen crows, perched along the railing of the deck!  It seemed the parent crows knew a good flying practice spot when it offered!  They were out there in diminishing numbers for the next few days, and I even had a short return visit the following summer.

Even though it’s been about 10 years since their last visit, I always make a point of offering salutations to the crows, as a thank you.

I understood at the time that the universe had manifested my desire, but just today did I understand a few other aspects of it.

The highest good:  I got my curiosity satisfied. A baby crow was protected from the attentions of a child with some propensity to violence.   Said child was spared the temptation to harm the crow, which may have resulted in parental disapproval (possibly violent?) on the part of humans and crows,  as well as having it on his conscience down the line.

I demonstrated to myself the power of deliberate creation as Abraham describes it:  you have a desire which you think about and imagine about and feel good about.  Then you let it go completely!  I certainly didn’t check my watch, wondering where my stuff was.  I just daydreamed about the subject every so often and then went on with my day.

THAT was effortless.  Won’t it be fun when its all that easy?

Why be vibrationally available?

Abraham tells us  that we are always creators, that we create by default until we focus on creating by deliberate choice.  How do we create deliberately?  By recognizing the vibrational frequency we are broadcasting and learning to alter it to align with what we want.  This sounds hard, yes?  Incomprehensible even, yes?  Well, in the beginning it sometimes feels like it, but it isn’t so hard and you already do it at times.  Let’s look at some examples.

Everyone has, at some time, misplaced their keys/checkbook/whatever and searched for it with increasing degrees of frantic desperation.  Later, you find it in the place you checked 3 times!  What happened was a case of vibrational unavailability.  You are heading out the door and reach for the keys…which aren’t where you expect them to be.  A thought something like, “Oh no, I don’t have time for this” comes up.  While you think you are looking for your keys, you are actually focused on the idea that your keys are missing!  This is a very different vibration.

Try it.  Say aloud, “I can’t find my keys!” or , “I’ve lost my keys!”

 

Now say, “I am finding my keys!”   Did you feel the difference?

If you felt the difference, congratulate yourself, because that shows you are vibrationally discerning.  If you didn’t feel it, don’t worry, it doesn’t take much practice to learn.  Even just being open to noticing those feelings will increase your ability.  In fact, there are already times when you say something and it strikes you as “incorrect” or “not quite right” and you search for a better way to say it.  At that time you are being vibrationally discerning by matching the feel of the words with the feel of your meaning.

OK, so when you searched the place where your keys will be found later, you were focused on not being able to find them, therefore you didn’t find them.  See what a powerful creator you are?  They were right there all the time and you just didn’t see them.  Now what about all the other things which you think you want and don’t have?  How many ways are you offering a vibrational frequency that prevents you from seeing that what you want is right there?

Let’s say you want lots of money (because who doesn’t?).  Ask yourself what having lots of money would give you.  Freedom?  Security? Opportunities? Now list all the ways in which you already have those things.  At this point I must caution you that you will think of reason after reason why what you’ve listed is not good enough.  Resist the temptation!  That is what is keeping you from seeing your desires have been answered!  Next example, from my life;

Last year, the annuity income that my husband had (and was our primary income) abruptly ceased.  I wrote a description of my “perfect job” to direct my creative powers to fulfill.

1) Flexible hours allow me to maintain my home surroundings to my satisfaction, as well as provide rides to my kids as needed and to pursue my spiritual and social life to my satisfaction (ex. study group, weekly coffee with friend, etc)

2) provides an environment (physically, socially, professionally) that is comfortable, graceful, exquisitely productive, challenging yet unstressful, stimulating without being over-demanding.

3) Provides an income that exceeds my needs and desires at all times.

After 6 months of job-hunting I still had no job.  I looked at my list in disgust.   I had been perfectly clear and that was still what I wanted.  I’m not sure when I next looked, but I can tell you I was in a much better vibrational frequency because when I did, I realized that I had everything on that list!

I have been self-employed building this business.

1) My hours are flexible enough to do everything I wanted.

2) The environments I operate in (my home, the beach and the venues for Funshops) are everything I asked for.

3) While I am not yet earning the level of income I imagined, my needs and desires are met and exceeded.  I don’t know where the money will come from, but for almost a year it HAS!

It wasn’t until I looked at that list from a new perspective, made possible largely by resisting the urge to say, even in my head, that what I have isn’t good enough, that I could see that my wish had been granted.

How to be vibrationally available to what you want?  (to be continued )

Essences

Today I want to talk about essences. We all have things that we want; we want money, cars, clothes, lovers, jobs, whatever. And we want each of those things for a particular reason. An essence is that “thing” that you’re looking for, and more specifically, it’s that thing, as it would feel. So, for example, we all want lots of money because we want what we can get with lots of money. We can go places, do things, avoid doing things-we don’t have to work at a job we don’t like if we have lots and lots of money. So what do all those things have in common?

 

For me, I want money because I want the freedom to do whatever I want, whenever I want, without stopping to consider whether I can afford it. It’s the old joke, you go into a fancy French restaurant and if you have to ask the prices you can’t afford it. I want to live as though I can afford anything I want. And the basic, underlying essence of that is that I feel free. I want to feel completely unlimited.  I want to have the opportunity to do all the things I can name. All of those things could actually come to me, even without money! I could get the opportunity to do a job that I absolutely love, that didn’t feel like doing a job, that felt like having fun. I could go places and see things and do stuff by being invited, for example, without necessarily having to have any money.  I could win a prize, or something completely unexpected could provide the means or the money (because I am not against getting the money, either).

 

So once I accept the fact that I can have the essence that I’m looking for, I realize that in fact I can have it lots of ways. I’m unlimited, there’s no reason why money has to be the only way in which I get what I want. In that case, I can begin looking at all of the things that I could have, without making money the pre-condition. Better yet, I can look at how I already have that essence in my life. What are some of the freedoms that I want from having lots of money? I want to be able to own my own schedule.  Well, this is true, I don’t have a job. I can pretty much do whatever I want whenever I want, with some limitations!

 

I say with some limitations, because I still accept that there are limitations.  I haven’t yet been invited to go traveling around the world. However, that doesn’t mean it couldn’t happen! It just means it hasn’t happened yet. It partly hasn’t happened yet because I always think, “Ooh. If I were really rich, I could go traveling”, and I set it up as though that’s the way it has to be. Rather than saying, “Boy you know, I’m really looking forward to going to Ireland, or Scotland, or Turkey, or China, or wherever”, and allow the Law of Attraction to bring that opportunity in to me at exactly the right price.

 

So to identify the essence of what you’re looking for allows you to apply that understanding to what you already have. And as we know, with the Law of Attraction, in order to attract a thing, you already have to be feeling full of whatever quality, essence that you are seeking. In order to attract lots of money, you have to feel really abundant!  In order to attract love, you have to feel really loved! So now that you can look at a thing that you want and identify the essence from it, you can identify how you already have it in your life. Concentrate on that, put your attention on that, allow yourself to really feel happy, glad, grateful that you have that essence in your life to a degree you haven’t been crediting.

 

Once you truly feel that way two things will happen. One is that you will be happy because you have what you always wanted, and second is that those things which compliment that feeling will come to you. That is the Law of Attraction. Now that I’ve identified, as I just now did identify, the reason that I haven’t traveled the world is because I always defined it as something I could only do if I had lots of money, which I never believed I had.  Now I can travel the world simply because I’ve been invited to. You probably won’t believe this, but I just remembered that my daughter invited me to go traveling with her next summer. Whoa, I must be onto something…

 

That is the essence of essences.  It is partly your thoughts, but largely it’s the feeling. If you will go around feeling, “I can do whatever I want. I am completely free”, then the things that prove to you that you are completely free continue to arrive in your environment. Identifying the essence allows you to identify how you already have it, which allows you to become a vibrational match to having more of it, which is what you wanted in the first place.