Being in your power means knowing yourself. More importantly it means trusting that you do; that you will know whether you like a thing or don’t, or that you will figure it out over time; that you can trust that your ideas and feelings are giving you good information and you can spend NO time second guessing it. this is how life becomes effortless.
Step One- You know who you are moment by moment by recognizing how you are feeling and whether you want to feel that way or you don’t.
Step Two- Trust that those feelings are the best guidance you can have. Don’t waste your energy on second-guessing yourself, just soothe those voices that say, “But what if…” by reminding them that you will know as clearly at the next moment as you do now and that at any given moment your paths are few and easy to choose among.
If you do not feel a clear impulse one way or another (“But i don’t know what I want!”), rejoice, because this is one of those times when you can choose anything and the experience will show you!
Repeat until you feel yourself becoming shiny and manageable.
P.S. Flower essences, meditation, nature and creativity will all help you to feel better while you are working out how to pay attention to what you are feeling moment by moment.