Breathe in, breathe out.
What have you just accomplished? You have just exchanged who you were a moment ago with who you have become now. It was easy and natural. You even do it while you are concentrating your attention on other things, because you allow your body to prompt you to take a breath, and the next. You go along with it because it is easy and rewarding. You don’t pay attention to it until something out of the ordinary happens, like unaccustomed exercise, or you bring it to your attention intentionally, like in yoga or meditation.
That is precisely how all changes in life happen; moment by moment, as incremental movement. This is the reason why it is so helpful to pay attention and give credit to yourself for the smallest improvements. You are building upon each of these moments, just as each tiny stitch in knitting or embroidery is creating a whole new creation that has never before existed. We often wish to jump ahead to the completed project, because our mind’s eye can already behold the thing, and we see ourselves at that moment of pride in completing it and using it.
This ability to see into the future and anticipate it with excitement is essential in the creation of our desires, but if it is emphasized over the triumphs of the moment, it is all too easy to become frustrated with not having it NOW. This , of course, slows down the creation process by being a vibrational match to NOT having the thing you desire! What is the solution to this? Let’s examine two methods.
Abraham’s 3 step process
Step One-Respond to the life you are living. This is automatic, you do not have consciously participate in this step.
Step Two-Your inner being, your Thought-self, becomes a vibrational match to the desire you have generated in Step One. The LoA causes the elements that will fulfill your desire to come into your environment. Again, this is done without your conscious participation.
Step Three-You “allow” this fulfillment of your desire by noticing in what ways, or to what degree your desire has been fulfilled. This is the only step that requires your attention, and once you have the hang of it, your life truly becomes effortless. I can say this because I can envision it, but I must admit I have not yet achieved effortlessness. I have, however, reached a point of much greater ease. I find it easier and quicker to identify my feelings, to change my perspective on a situation or, when appropriate, relax and accept myself about not doing the work until I am ready.
I found this method very helpful in the beginning, mostly because it took the pressure off of me to figure out how to achieve what I wanted. However, it took a lot of study and effort to understand what “allowing” consisted of, or how to be a vibrational match to what I wasn’t feeling at the time. So I developed my own 3 step process.
My step one-Identify how I am feeling. Decide whether I want to feel that way. If not…
My step two- Decide how I do want to feel. I find that if I allow myself to just ramble on about what I want to feel (preferably aloud), I will usually come out with a description that fits so perfectly it “pings”, resounding with rightness. If time allows and I feel the urge, I will elaborate on this to milk it for all it’s good-feeling-ness.
My step 3- Collapse time. Now that I have identified how I want to feel, it is time to become a vibrational match to being it. Therefore, I find the ways in which I already feel that way. If it involves having a thing, money for example, I will find all the money I do have and give credit to having it. I will also identify the essence that I want money for (freedom to do what I like, security, etc) and find those things that I have now that fulfill the essence I want. Really, this is an exercise in finding the positive aspects of my life that I have been blind to until this point. It makes me feel better NOW, which is a relief, and it makes me a vibrational match to what I want.
It is good to understand that while such targeted exercises in feeling better about specific things makes me a vibrational match to those things, any time I can feel good about anything improves my dominant vibration. This is nice because there are times and issues I have difficulty letting go of, finding positive aspects of. In those circumstances, I turn my attention to anything that I can feel good about and I get relief. Sort of the way I would treat a toddler, when logic fails, use distraction!
Finally, Abraham is always urging us to appreciate what we already have. In a recent bout with wanting my life to be effortless (in particular, these writings!), I took this advice and reminded myself of how much I have already accomplished. Then it dawned on me, what could be more effortless than what is already done! Look around yourself for how much you have already achieved toward your goals and in your life, you will be surprised at how far you’ve come and it will make you feel better.