About laurie

I am a work in progress and well aware of it. More to the point, excited about it! Being a work in progress means I can change at any time. I can be someone today that I wasn't yesterday, and might not be tomorrow, but is perfectly suited to today. Every day. That is complete freedom.

10 ways to say “I don’t FEEL like it”

Sometimes we have occasion to answer to others why we are making the choice  to do what we feel like, sometimes instead of what they want or instead of what is socially acceptable. Here are 10 ways:


2- I am not inspired/ impulsed to do that

3-That doesn’t feel right

4-I can’t be arsed

5-I’m not available for that

6-I don’t think so

7-I’m just not drawn/attracted to that

8-I don’t feel like it

9-That’s not how I want to spend my time/energy/money/life


Number 10 has been left blank intentionally, because there are times when no response is the best response.  There are many ways to make no response;  you can simply be silent  (which speaks volumes), you can change the subject (sometimes repeatedly), you can give a pseudo answer (so that they don’t know that you haven’t answered them.  This is an art for quick-thinking individuals and authors.)

Back in the day, when my regional sales manager would call to get my sales numbers, and I didn’t want to admit to a bad week, I would answer, “No speak Engrish!”  Not surprisingly, he quickly figured out what that meant anyway…

By now, I hope you understand the importance of honoring your inspirations/impulses.  As you hold a vibration of doing what feels good, so you are creating a manifestation of the things you want that feel good.  So what can be gained from following your desire to say no or to not answer?

1) Clarity.  For you, because you have evaluated and made your decision and do not have to make it palatable to anyone else.  For the other person/people involved, because without your input they must rely on their own knowledge and feelings to make the decision about the next step, therefore you afford them the opportunity to achieve clarity for themselves.  Keep in mind that not everyone appreciates this opportunity, because few people are accustomed to it, or to owning their own power.  That, however, is their business and none of yours.

2) Power.  Anytime you are true to yourself and feel satisfied, you are taking back your power, because your thoughts and feelings  are the only things that are truly, completely yours to control.  When you allow “shoulds” to rule you, you are allowing the tapes in your head to have your power, and it does not feel good.  Even if you might choose that action/thought of your own free will, it must be chosen for your own reasons, not simply because it is expected by some outside authority for you to be considered as “good enough”.


Selfish is what you are called when you are not doing what someone else wants you to.

More and Better

Old habits of thought.  We all have them and we always will. An old habit of thought is simply that; an outmoded “belief” that we continue to invoke out of habit rather than intention.  ” Shoulds” are a very good example of this because, almost by definition, it signifies something that you feel must be done out of compunction instead of desire.

Reminder: Doing what you desire, what you “feel” like doing, is following guidance/ staying in alignment/treading the path you have already created in thought.

Old habits are not ‘wrong’, any more than you were wrong to be who you were yesterday, last month or 10 years ago.  They served you very well when you were treading that part of your path.  Traveling at the 30 mph speed limit is fine inside the city, but once you leave that speed zone, it is more fitting to go at highway speed.  You will get to your destination faster, you will be in synch with others on the same path at the same time, and it feels good to really go when the circumstances are right.

Not only did your old habits suit you then, they made it possible to grow and move forward to where you are now.  They were the stepping stones to Here Now.  So while it is good to have a “rummage sale of the mind” (to quote my old minister) and let go of outmoded thoughts like “I can’t afford that” (versus, “I don’t feel like spending my money on that right now”), it is important to recognize what those old thoughts brought you.

The Example:  As a kid you always wanted a sports car, and you daydreamed about looking cool and going fast.  At the same time you were busily learning patterns of limitation about money, opportunities, and your qualifications for them.  You might have learned that your parents thought they never had enough money and what they did have had to be earned by laboring at a job that didn’t thrill them to bits, that to have something you wanted meant going without something else, that certain things were only available to rich people (who weren’t you).

Still you dreamed about the sports car, even while you learned to accept that it probably wasn’t something you’d ever have.  You added features and colors, refining your vision of the perfect sports car every time you saw the newest models.  Once you saw an ad for a sports car at a terrific price, but it turned out to be 25 years old, rusted and without a transmission or tires.  Your hopes which had been secretly raised were dashed (as you knew they would be) and you became bitter that you couldn’t get even a decent old one.  This was a crucial moment!

If you had been studying Abraham and the Law of Attraction, you might have realized that you had a choice of how to view this; one way would bring you closer to having the sports car of your dreams; the other would increasingly alienate your chances.  If you could recognize how cleverly the Law of Attraction matched not only your desire for a sports car, but also matched your beliefs and expectations about money and the kinds of experiences that were available to you, you could have taken the view that you had manifested a sports car!

Because you had so many beliefs that hindered getting a luxury item like a sports car at all, it said a lot that you came across one at an affordable price.  The shape it was in was simply showing you the limits your expectations put on your manifestation.  At this point then, you recognize that you have attracted a sports car (yay!), and while pleased with yourself for that, you don’t feel the need to invest in this poor specimen.

Instead, you continue to daydream the perfect car and every time your old habits of thought start an argument with your dream, you’ll recognize them.  They are the thoughts that don’t feel good.  You’ll gradually make peace with those old habits and let them go, replacing them with thoughts that suit you now.  With any luck, you will be on the lookout for the next evidence of your changed/refined desire, knowing that even if it isn’t perfect, it is indicating movement towards what you really want.

The crucial part here?  Understanding that the manifestations surrounding you NOW are answers to prayers/desires from BEFORE.  Your desires have changed, moved up a notch and always will! It is in our nature to want More and Better.   Each time you get what you’ve  wanted: your manifestations will lag a bit behind, but as you are able to “see” them as your manifestations from before, and can get the point of what the imperfections are telling you about your own beliefs, the faster and more like what you really want they can get.

One last point is that there are some ‘places’ in your life that the manifestations meet and exceed your desires.  When you meet up with these, you say, “Wow! How cool is that!” or “I am having a lucky day!”  These are the manifestations you have also wrought, take credit for having that stuff together so well!

Other People’s “Stuff”

I had a dream recently in which I was watching one of my children writhing in pain and my “teacher” was explaining that despite what this looked like and my desire to ease her, if I could refrain from taking away her pain, she had the opportunity to discover a way to do it herself and possibly expand the techniques available to all of us.   “She has chosen this, do not curtail her creativity”, I was told.

Unusually for me, I remembered this dream after I woke up, and it was all too clear what it pertained to.  I am the MOM, I know all the Answers and it has always been my job to ‘make it better’.  Until, of course, my children became adults who have progressively made it clear that I don’t have all the answers for their lives and would I kindly learn how to be supportive instead of in charge.  The nice part about this lesson is that it is also applicable to everyone else I know, or might come to know, or even ones I don’t know, but who co-exist on this planet with me.

To make the lesson easier to relate to, let’s pretend that that other person is untangling a big knot in a rope.  It is challenging, frustrating, sometimes to the point of setting it aside for awhile, but when it is done it is an accomplishment to be proud of, and has shown them, perhaps, some of the rules governing the fine art of untangling.   If I insist that they hand it over because I am really good at untangling ropes, what have they gained?   Some free time?, a sense of impotence?, another occasion when they failed to be ‘good enough’?

I am available as a resource when they want my advice or skills.  Asking for help is also a skill one must learn sometime.  If I can trust that this person has the skills, or the right to learn the skills needed to overcome this situation, I might be delighted to find there are ways of untangling ropes that I didn’t know, perhaps no one ever used before!

I saw a church marquee that said, “Children need more models than critics”, which is true and good.  That still leaves me wondering how to be supportive rather than just detached.   So I think back to the times in my life when a friend gave me just what I needed.  I find that what worked best was when they said something like, “Yeah, that’s hard.  I take comfort knowing this is just the sort of thing you’re good at.  You always work it out and I am always impressed by how you do it.”  They gave me a vote of confidence that didn’t sound like a platitude, because they meant it.

I am better prepared now to see the ways in which my children, or others, are perfectly suited to solve the riddles their lives pose them, because, after all, they set themselves up for it by making the choices that got them there in the first place!  As I have in my life also.  It’s just a knot in the rope, and I can’t wait to see how they untangle it…


Several years ago, watching the birds and their fledglings, it struck me that I had never seen a baby crow. Considering the number of crows about, it seemed unlikely never to have seen a fledgling and I became intensely curious about it.  I really wanted to see a baby crow.

One day I saw the neighbor boy hitting what looked like a bundle of rags in the street with a stick.  When I  asked him what he was doing, he said, “It’s wing is broken, it can’t fly.”  I came closer and saw a crow, apparently unhurt, with startlingly blue eyes.  I realized the universe had answered my request to see a baby crow!

I picked it up with a towel and brought it to my backyard where it was nice and quiet.  Knowing that the parents would be watching, I just gave it some 5-Flower remedy and left it to recover.  Throughout the day, when I had reason to go out, I saw the baby in various spots throughout the yard. He had obviously been practicing his flying.

The next morning, when I chanced to look out the back window, there were half a dozen crows, perched along the railing of the deck!  It seemed the parent crows knew a good flying practice spot when it offered!  They were out there in diminishing numbers for the next few days, and I even had a short return visit the following summer.

Even though it’s been about 10 years since their last visit, I always make a point of offering salutations to the crows, as a thank you.

I understood at the time that the universe had manifested my desire, but just today did I understand a few other aspects of it.

The highest good:  I got my curiosity satisfied. A baby crow was protected from the attentions of a child with some propensity to violence.   Said child was spared the temptation to harm the crow, which may have resulted in parental disapproval (possibly violent?) on the part of humans and crows,  as well as having it on his conscience down the line.

I demonstrated to myself the power of deliberate creation as Abraham describes it:  you have a desire which you think about and imagine about and feel good about.  Then you let it go completely!  I certainly didn’t check my watch, wondering where my stuff was.  I just daydreamed about the subject every so often and then went on with my day.

THAT was effortless.  Won’t it be fun when its all that easy?

Why be vibrationally available?

Abraham tells us  that we are always creators, that we create by default until we focus on creating by deliberate choice.  How do we create deliberately?  By recognizing the vibrational frequency we are broadcasting and learning to alter it to align with what we want.  This sounds hard, yes?  Incomprehensible even, yes?  Well, in the beginning it sometimes feels like it, but it isn’t so hard and you already do it at times.  Let’s look at some examples.

Everyone has, at some time, misplaced their keys/checkbook/whatever and searched for it with increasing degrees of frantic desperation.  Later, you find it in the place you checked 3 times!  What happened was a case of vibrational unavailability.  You are heading out the door and reach for the keys…which aren’t where you expect them to be.  A thought something like, “Oh no, I don’t have time for this” comes up.  While you think you are looking for your keys, you are actually focused on the idea that your keys are missing!  This is a very different vibration.

Try it.  Say aloud, “I can’t find my keys!” or , “I’ve lost my keys!”


Now say, “I am finding my keys!”   Did you feel the difference?

If you felt the difference, congratulate yourself, because that shows you are vibrationally discerning.  If you didn’t feel it, don’t worry, it doesn’t take much practice to learn.  Even just being open to noticing those feelings will increase your ability.  In fact, there are already times when you say something and it strikes you as “incorrect” or “not quite right” and you search for a better way to say it.  At that time you are being vibrationally discerning by matching the feel of the words with the feel of your meaning.

OK, so when you searched the place where your keys will be found later, you were focused on not being able to find them, therefore you didn’t find them.  See what a powerful creator you are?  They were right there all the time and you just didn’t see them.  Now what about all the other things which you think you want and don’t have?  How many ways are you offering a vibrational frequency that prevents you from seeing that what you want is right there?

Let’s say you want lots of money (because who doesn’t?).  Ask yourself what having lots of money would give you.  Freedom?  Security? Opportunities? Now list all the ways in which you already have those things.  At this point I must caution you that you will think of reason after reason why what you’ve listed is not good enough.  Resist the temptation!  That is what is keeping you from seeing your desires have been answered!  Next example, from my life;

Last year, the annuity income that my husband had (and was our primary income) abruptly ceased.  I wrote a description of my “perfect job” to direct my creative powers to fulfill.

1) Flexible hours allow me to maintain my home surroundings to my satisfaction, as well as provide rides to my kids as needed and to pursue my spiritual and social life to my satisfaction (ex. study group, weekly coffee with friend, etc)

2) provides an environment (physically, socially, professionally) that is comfortable, graceful, exquisitely productive, challenging yet unstressful, stimulating without being over-demanding.

3) Provides an income that exceeds my needs and desires at all times.

After 6 months of job-hunting I still had no job.  I looked at my list in disgust.   I had been perfectly clear and that was still what I wanted.  I’m not sure when I next looked, but I can tell you I was in a much better vibrational frequency because when I did, I realized that I had everything on that list!

I have been self-employed building this business.

1) My hours are flexible enough to do everything I wanted.

2) The environments I operate in (my home, the beach and the venues for Funshops) are everything I asked for.

3) While I am not yet earning the level of income I imagined, my needs and desires are met and exceeded.  I don’t know where the money will come from, but for almost a year it HAS!

It wasn’t until I looked at that list from a new perspective, made possible largely by resisting the urge to say, even in my head, that what I have isn’t good enough, that I could see that my wish had been granted.

How to be vibrationally available to what you want?  (to be continued )

Clarity and Intention

Some months ago, Venus was conjuncting or passing through my chart in some fashion and the astrologer suggested making a wish because that was a good time for it to come to pass.  At the bottom of the page, he said, “If you can’t think what to wish for then ask for the clarity to know what you want.”

This is genius, and practical to boot.  It speaks to the fact that we often don’t know what we want (specifically), or where to go from here, but there is still a thing to do: ask for it to become clear.  Set an intention.   What is an intention?  According to the dictionary, it is  “An aim that guides action; an objective”.   We are complex creatures who sometimes have complex agendas, and we may need to untangle some of the threads in order to compare and prioritize them, but a good first question is,  “How do I want to feel?”

I’ve spent a lot of the last few weeks in a strange place, emotionally.  I wanted to do something, but I wasn’t sure what exactly, and all the ideas I tried on didn’t feel quite right.  Towards the end, I was bored and physically restless.  Then, a few days ago,  when I felt I couldn’t stand it anymore I decreed, “I want to feel sure!  I want to know what to do and when to do it!  I want to be absolutely clear and I want it now!  And I want it to be easy!”  Hey, when the universe is listening, make it good…

Since then, I have begun to make sense out of the past few weeks (focusing on being bored attracted more boredom to me until I recognized/got clarity that I didn’t want to be bored!).   I followed my desires as they arose yesterday and today and found several new adventures (people , thoughts and experiences).  End of boredom.

Perhaps you don’t need to know the right answers, sometimes it’s good enough to know the right questions.  “How do I want to feel?” is a very good question to start with.

Paradoxical Fun

Sometimes, when you are working on reorienting your thoughts to better-feeling ones, you hit a moment when you just can’t summon the energy/desire/motivation to “do the work”.  The first time I remember hitting this “roadblock”,  was when I was really angry about something.  It seemed, however, that whenever I tried to find a different thought, my mind went all fuzzy and there was nothing else to turn to.  I was vibrationally unavailable to any better-feeling thought.  Eventually, I gave myself up to the anger and just went with it, and when it was spent I discovered that now I felt like pivoting my thoughts.

My experience with feeling low wasn’t exactly like this, in that it didn’t blow itself out.  Instead I kept saying to myself, “This is where I am, right now and it is fine.  I accept  this, I accept exactly who I am right now, and I look forward to feeling better.”  I was surprised, actually, to find out that while I wasn’t exactly enjoying these times, they had their up side. Being angry felt powerful and a release, and provided I didn’t share it in a hurtful way with those around me, harmless.  Being bored and unproductive, while uncomfortable by being unfamiliar, had a restful aspect.

So sometimes I just wanted to be angry, sometimes I just wanted to feel sorry for myself, sometimes I just wanted to cry, etc.  Because I found some strange, non-traditional enjoyment from it, I decided to call it “paradoxical fun”.  And ever since I discovered this perspective, I’ve been able to analyze it and see how it works in a LoA paradigm.

To begin with, allowing myself to feel what I feel sends a great big “I accept and approve of myself” message to my subconscious.  I love myself warts and all, just as my Source does. That is being in alignment.

Secondly, being willing to accept even the “ugly” parts of myself, the ones that my tapes have decreed as unacceptable has allowed me to stop holding judgements against myself and see them all as just experiences.  It also means that I have no dark side to hide from.  I don’t have to fear that “you won’t like me if you really knew me” syndrome that many of us secretly fear is true.  If I can like even my dark bits, then I will be a vibrational match to people who also can.  In any event, I’ll like myself. :)  This is also being in alignment.

Thirdly, I no longer feel threatened by being stuck in an unpleasant emotion/experience.  Knowing that I can change it whenever I am ready to allows me the freedom to really experience it.  This is freedom, and also in alignment.

According to Abraham, if we hadn’t wanted to experience trials and travails we would not have incarnated.  They say that we came here for the fun of getting out of alignment in order to find our way back into alignment.  I expect that that is what I am calling “paradoxical fun”.

Now I have another wish for people, apart from “Have fun!”.  I can wish them “Have paradoxical fun!”, although I might do it in my head until I’m sure they are ready to hear it out loud…


Today I want to talk about essences. We all have things that we want; we want money, cars, clothes, lovers, jobs, whatever. And we want each of those things for a particular reason. An essence is that “thing” that you’re looking for, and more specifically, it’s that thing, as it would feel. So, for example, we all want lots of money because we want what we can get with lots of money. We can go places, do things, avoid doing things-we don’t have to work at a job we don’t like if we have lots and lots of money. So what do all those things have in common?


For me, I want money because I want the freedom to do whatever I want, whenever I want, without stopping to consider whether I can afford it. It’s the old joke, you go into a fancy French restaurant and if you have to ask the prices you can’t afford it. I want to live as though I can afford anything I want. And the basic, underlying essence of that is that I feel free. I want to feel completely unlimited.  I want to have the opportunity to do all the things I can name. All of those things could actually come to me, even without money! I could get the opportunity to do a job that I absolutely love, that didn’t feel like doing a job, that felt like having fun. I could go places and see things and do stuff by being invited, for example, without necessarily having to have any money.  I could win a prize, or something completely unexpected could provide the means or the money (because I am not against getting the money, either).


So once I accept the fact that I can have the essence that I’m looking for, I realize that in fact I can have it lots of ways. I’m unlimited, there’s no reason why money has to be the only way in which I get what I want. In that case, I can begin looking at all of the things that I could have, without making money the pre-condition. Better yet, I can look at how I already have that essence in my life. What are some of the freedoms that I want from having lots of money? I want to be able to own my own schedule.  Well, this is true, I don’t have a job. I can pretty much do whatever I want whenever I want, with some limitations!


I say with some limitations, because I still accept that there are limitations.  I haven’t yet been invited to go traveling around the world. However, that doesn’t mean it couldn’t happen! It just means it hasn’t happened yet. It partly hasn’t happened yet because I always think, “Ooh. If I were really rich, I could go traveling”, and I set it up as though that’s the way it has to be. Rather than saying, “Boy you know, I’m really looking forward to going to Ireland, or Scotland, or Turkey, or China, or wherever”, and allow the Law of Attraction to bring that opportunity in to me at exactly the right price.


So to identify the essence of what you’re looking for allows you to apply that understanding to what you already have. And as we know, with the Law of Attraction, in order to attract a thing, you already have to be feeling full of whatever quality, essence that you are seeking. In order to attract lots of money, you have to feel really abundant!  In order to attract love, you have to feel really loved! So now that you can look at a thing that you want and identify the essence from it, you can identify how you already have it in your life. Concentrate on that, put your attention on that, allow yourself to really feel happy, glad, grateful that you have that essence in your life to a degree you haven’t been crediting.


Once you truly feel that way two things will happen. One is that you will be happy because you have what you always wanted, and second is that those things which compliment that feeling will come to you. That is the Law of Attraction. Now that I’ve identified, as I just now did identify, the reason that I haven’t traveled the world is because I always defined it as something I could only do if I had lots of money, which I never believed I had.  Now I can travel the world simply because I’ve been invited to. You probably won’t believe this, but I just remembered that my daughter invited me to go traveling with her next summer. Whoa, I must be onto something…


That is the essence of essences.  It is partly your thoughts, but largely it’s the feeling. If you will go around feeling, “I can do whatever I want. I am completely free”, then the things that prove to you that you are completely free continue to arrive in your environment. Identifying the essence allows you to identify how you already have it, which allows you to become a vibrational match to having more of it, which is what you wanted in the first place.



The way it’s meant to work: Part 2

Step One of deliberate creation is having a desire.  Abraham tells us this is an automatic, instantaneous response to stimuli and NOT under our conscious control.   When we become aware of this response, we can use the understanding of it to focus upon the desire, but the desire itself is instantaneous.

Step Two is that the Law of Attraction brings that which will fulfill this desire to us.  Once again, not our job, the LoA handles the “How” of things. (And may I just say, THANK YOU GOD!)

Step Three is allowing your desires to materialize for you.  This, says Abraham, is our only job.  “But, but, what the heck does ‘allowing’ look like, feel like?”, we wonder.   This is the best question!

Let’s look at these steps in detail.

Step1 -This “rocket of desire” is a vibrational frequency which you are broadcasting.  Think of it as magnetic emanations that take on the shape and essence of your desire.  The non-physical part of you (I am finding it hard to use You to describe this at the beginning of  a sentence) becomes a vibrational match to your desire by using the method we think of as imagination.  “You” create images, sensations and feelings that correspond to the desire you’ve conceived of.

This imagined state of being creates a framework to hang matter upon, rather like a sculptor with clay might use a wire template to flesh out into form.  This creates an energetic template for “you” to follow.  Your EGS lets you know whether you are moving towards or away from your desired thing by whether you feel harmony or dissonance with it’s frequency, which your inner being is vibrating at, which it has “become”.

It occurs to me, just now, that if thought is the basis of all form/matter, then your inner being (“You”) is your Thought-self.  I like this image because it is easier to see how one’s Thought-self is integral to one’s Matter-self, and also gives us a parallel for what follows here.

Okay, your Thought-self instantaneously becomes a vibrational match to the desire your Matter-self generated.  It is instantaneous because it happens on the level of thought.   Your Matter-self can know what to focus it’s attention on by whether the thought feels harmonious (good) or dissonant (uncomfortable).  This is how Abraham tells us we can “feel our way” through life. With each new rocket of desire, we refine and/or expand our desires and feel our way towards them.

Step 2-As the tendrils of your magnetic emanations expand outward from you they are complemented by the LoA, which matches the frequency of your magnetism with things of similar shape and essence.The LoA brings us the opportunities to fulfill our desires and we discern the “right” actions from how they make us feel.

The “right” action, of course, is right only in the context of what we have asked for, and as the unique beings we are at any given moment.  Not only can what we desire change, it is guaranteed to change.  These are the refinements we make on a continuing basis.   “I want to prove I am good enough” becomes,  “On second thought, I am good enough, I want things to be easy”  which morphs into, “Well, this is kinda boring, maybe just enough challenge to be interesting, but not enough to be painful.”   Etc.

Step 3-Here we have the parallel I spoke of earlier.  Your Thought-self became a vibrational match to your desires by seeing them, matching sensations and feelings to the “imagined” scenario.  So your Matter-self does it as well.  Imagine, remember or perceive in this moment that what you want is what you have and it will be.  Make it so, Number One.

The way it’s meant to be is effortless, obvious, natural and rewarding.  Have a desire and it is met. Ask and ye shall receive.  It doesn’t feel like this is the way it is working in large part because we do not trust our feelings, have accepted false beliefs about what we can do, what we “have to” do, what we deserve and the duty we owe to others.  Letting go of these forms of resistance can be hard work, (at least until the belief that it has to be hard work is released :)), but it gets easier and easier as you pay attention to what makes you feel good.




The power of “Now”…and “Then”

You are always Here, Now.

Yesterday, 5 minutes ago and tomorrow do not exist!   Except, of course in your imagination, or as we call it when we are looking backward in time, memory.  Or else, perhaps, if indeed there are no such things as time and space, they exist concurrently with Now.

Each of these perspectives can be useful.   Now exists as your point of power, the place where you can take action.  If you cannot take action, it is not useful to waste your energy fretting about not being able to do so.  For example, it is oh-so-easy to get caught up in things that are not happening right now, and to treat them as if they were.  Are you mentally paying next month’s bills?  Or deciding if you can get that project done by your deadline?  Are you getting nervous? Why?

You don’t have to be afraid of something that isn’t happening.  In fact, if you can get a handle on your imaginings, you can assure yourself that the future that you anticipate nervously does not come to you.

If it is not time for action, what is it time for?  Pre-paving.  Segment intending.  In other words, using your imagination and your intent (because these are the tools of creation) to find good-feeling scenarios.  What you are thinking/feeling is what you are broadcasting to the LoA to match, so if it is scary, find another thought!

“I have food now, my bills are paid now, I am impeccably guided to take the right action at the right time, I know how to find the “up” side to everything that comes to me”, etc.

If you are going to think in the future, make it a good-feeling imagination, because the feelings that your imaginings about the future are bringing up within you are happening Now, being broadcast Now, being matched by the LoA in 17 seconds, in 68 seconds…

The same is true for memories, so HEAL them!  Use your pivoting skills to change the perspective, to see the other information that you weren’t aware of at the time, to give value to the experience.  If that is too hard, play “wouldn’t it have been nice” if it had happened another way.  It is not important to make it “true”, this is about changing your point of attraction in the Now!  Make it feel good Now!

This reminds me of a discussion I had with my husband a few years ago (pre-Abraham for me). He said “Create your own reality” felt overwhelming and since there are parallel universes of every description already existing (at least in potentia) he would prefer to think of it as “choosing” his own reality, thereby bypassing the process of constructing it detail by detail.  This “wouldn’t it be nice” game helped him access it through his subconscious.

Sometimes, especially with fear, it seems as if better-feeling thoughts are hiding from you.  This is a good time to use your intention.  First intend to release the physical sensation of fear, breathe deeply and remind yourself that you are not alone, you have all of Source to draw upon.  Ask for assistance.  Intend that the thoughts you want are there and they will become evident to you.  The more you relax, the more your Source is able to communicate with you, and the more positive perspectives you will think of.

Imagination and intention.  What you put your attention on grows larger and more real. It is the truth behind “Seek and ye shall find”.