Old habits of thought. We all have them and we always will. An old habit of thought is simply that; an outmoded “belief” that we continue to invoke out of habit rather than intention. ” Shoulds” are a very good example of this because, almost by definition, it signifies something that you feel must be done out of compunction instead of desire.
Reminder: Doing what you desire, what you “feel” like doing, is following guidance/ staying in alignment/treading the path you have already created in thought.
Old habits are not ‘wrong’, any more than you were wrong to be who you were yesterday, last month or 10 years ago. They served you very well when you were treading that part of your path. Traveling at the 30 mph speed limit is fine inside the city, but once you leave that speed zone, it is more fitting to go at highway speed. You will get to your destination faster, you will be in synch with others on the same path at the same time, and it feels good to really go when the circumstances are right.
Not only did your old habits suit you then, they made it possible to grow and move forward to where you are now. They were the stepping stones to Here Now. So while it is good to have a “rummage sale of the mind” (to quote my old minister) and let go of outmoded thoughts like “I can’t afford that” (versus, “I don’t feel like spending my money on that right now”), it is important to recognize what those old thoughts brought you.
The Example: As a kid you always wanted a sports car, and you daydreamed about looking cool and going fast. At the same time you were busily learning patterns of limitation about money, opportunities, and your qualifications for them. You might have learned that your parents thought they never had enough money and what they did have had to be earned by laboring at a job that didn’t thrill them to bits, that to have something you wanted meant going without something else, that certain things were only available to rich people (who weren’t you).
Still you dreamed about the sports car, even while you learned to accept that it probably wasn’t something you’d ever have. You added features and colors, refining your vision of the perfect sports car every time you saw the newest models. Once you saw an ad for a sports car at a terrific price, but it turned out to be 25 years old, rusted and without a transmission or tires. Your hopes which had been secretly raised were dashed (as you knew they would be) and you became bitter that you couldn’t get even a decent old one. This was a crucial moment!
If you had been studying Abraham and the Law of Attraction, you might have realized that you had a choice of how to view this; one way would bring you closer to having the sports car of your dreams; the other would increasingly alienate your chances. If you could recognize how cleverly the Law of Attraction matched not only your desire for a sports car, but also matched your beliefs and expectations about money and the kinds of experiences that were available to you, you could have taken the view that you had manifested a sports car!
Because you had so many beliefs that hindered getting a luxury item like a sports car at all, it said a lot that you came across one at an affordable price. The shape it was in was simply showing you the limits your expectations put on your manifestation. At this point then, you recognize that you have attracted a sports car (yay!), and while pleased with yourself for that, you don’t feel the need to invest in this poor specimen.
Instead, you continue to daydream the perfect car and every time your old habits of thought start an argument with your dream, you’ll recognize them. They are the thoughts that don’t feel good. You’ll gradually make peace with those old habits and let them go, replacing them with thoughts that suit you now. With any luck, you will be on the lookout for the next evidence of your changed/refined desire, knowing that even if it isn’t perfect, it is indicating movement towards what you really want.
The crucial part here? Understanding that the manifestations surrounding you NOW are answers to prayers/desires from BEFORE. Your desires have changed, moved up a notch and always will! It is in our nature to want More and Better. Each time you get what you’ve wanted: your manifestations will lag a bit behind, but as you are able to “see” them as your manifestations from before, and can get the point of what the imperfections are telling you about your own beliefs, the faster and more like what you really want they can get.
One last point is that there are some ‘places’ in your life that the manifestations meet and exceed your desires. When you meet up with these, you say, “Wow! How cool is that!” or “I am having a lucky day!” These are the manifestations you have also wrought, take credit for having that stuff together so well!