Sometimes we have occasion to answer to others why we are making the choice to do what we feel like, sometimes instead of what they want or instead of what is socially acceptable. Here are 10 ways:
2- I am not inspired/ impulsed to do that
3-That doesn’t feel right
4-I can’t be arsed
5-I’m not available for that
6-I don’t think so
7-I’m just not drawn/attracted to that
8-I don’t feel like it
9-That’s not how I want to spend my time/energy/money/life
Number 10 has been left blank intentionally, because there are times when no response is the best response. There are many ways to make no response; you can simply be silent (which speaks volumes), you can change the subject (sometimes repeatedly), you can give a pseudo answer (so that they don’t know that you haven’t answered them. This is an art for quick-thinking individuals and authors.)
Back in the day, when my regional sales manager would call to get my sales numbers, and I didn’t want to admit to a bad week, I would answer, “No speak Engrish!” Not surprisingly, he quickly figured out what that meant anyway…
By now, I hope you understand the importance of honoring your inspirations/impulses. As you hold a vibration of doing what feels good, so you are creating a manifestation of the things you want that feel good. So what can be gained from following your desire to say no or to not answer?
1) Clarity. For you, because you have evaluated and made your decision and do not have to make it palatable to anyone else. For the other person/people involved, because without your input they must rely on their own knowledge and feelings to make the decision about the next step, therefore you afford them the opportunity to achieve clarity for themselves. Keep in mind that not everyone appreciates this opportunity, because few people are accustomed to it, or to owning their own power. That, however, is their business and none of yours.
2) Power. Anytime you are true to yourself and feel satisfied, you are taking back your power, because your thoughts and feelings are the only things that are truly, completely yours to control. When you allow “shoulds” to rule you, you are allowing the tapes in your head to have your power, and it does not feel good. Even if you might choose that action/thought of your own free will, it must be chosen for your own reasons, not simply because it is expected by some outside authority for you to be considered as “good enough”.
Selfish is what you are called when you are not doing what someone else wants you to.